Charity begins at home

This is a very popular saying and is very commonly used in day to day communication. Charity is a kind act. It is our moral duty to help our fellow beings when they are in need. A person lives in a society; he can't enjoy the comforts when his fellow beings are suffering around him. It is right that one should help others but help should be given to those who actually need and deserve it. This proverb tells us that first of all one should help the nearest needy person then one should go further.

Nowadays we see that hundreds of social reformers are trying to remove the ills of society, however there are ills and malpractices right in their homes or under their nose. Many women reformers preach about various ill treatments given to daughter in law's however, we find most of such atrocities in their own houses. They preach and that there should be good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-raw. But there is always darkness under the lamp. The woman preaches in the society, but one can find the opposite picture at their own homes. When they themselves quarrel with each other how can they preach others? In the same way some parents preach that children these days are following bad habits, however their own children may go astray. They take drugs, smoke and practice other bad things. All the great leaders and reformers preach against dowry system and they themselves give dowry from the back door. That's why it is said that charity must begin from their own houses. First of all preachers should bring reforms in their own homes and then they should try to reform others. Being charitable is not bad but be charitable at the home first.

It is easy to preach about doing good things and good deeds. Most people do such things to show off and impress others, but when it comes to doing good deeds to persons who are very close i.e. our family members, relatives, colleagues, employees, servants and others closely connected, they treat them badly.

A person's first obligation is to help his own family and closely associated persons before he can begin talking of helping others. Hence the proverb is very relevant and a guiding lesson to humanity.